Marriage and Family Experts Speak

Thanks to Don Flor for getting me this information and links to a series of online videos by leading marriage and family experts. The videos include some really well known marriage and family therapists and ministers like: Gary Chapman (author of The 5 Love Languages), Henry Cloud (Author of Boundaries), Willard Harley (His Needs, Her [...]

We Are Pregnant Again!

Just wanted to let all of you know that we are pregnant again! We wanted to wait a while before we said that this time but Missy is starting her 14th week of pregnancy. Many of you probably remember we had a miscarriage last time so please keep us in your prayers!

Additional Marriage and Family Resources

I just added two more links to the Marriage and Family Resources page at the top of K.L. Both are excellent. Here they are:
Smart Marriages - An excellent resource with frequent email updates of marriage in the news and media. One of the best resources out there.
Marriage Resources for Counselors - A brand new website [...]

Power of Positive Parenting - Getting Past Your Past

We all have models of how we do things. Over the course of our lives we learn how to be a husband or wife, father or mother, friend, etc from what we have been modeled. Nuclear families are not always the norm any more so I am going to write this very generally. For the [...]

Power of Positive Parenting - 7 Rules for Consistent Parenting

Consistency is one of the most important parts of effective parenting. There are a lot of parenting techniques and programs out there. The most important thing is that you decide what you are going to do to discipline your children and stick with it.
One of the reasons we have to be 100% consistent in our [...]

Power of Positive Parenting - Noncompliance and Commands

One of the biggest challenges in dealing with children is how to deal with non-compliance. So far in this series we have only dealt with attention seeking behaviors. Attention seeking behaviors are not in response to a command. Instead, they are a bid for the parents’ attention. So what do you do with a non-compliant [...]

Power of Positive Parenting - The Power of Attention

This is not about if you have ADD or a short attention span. This is about using your attention as a powerful force that is key to helping your children develop appropriate behaviors. Attention is powerful. Believe it or not your children want it. They value it. This is evidenced by the extreme measures many [...]

Power of Positive Parenting - Understanding Functional Behavior

The last post talked about the two sides of discipline. This next post is about how the things children and even adults do almost always make sense on some level. When you examine the majority of psychosis or dysfunctional behavior in children and adults you normally find something that used to “work for them” on [...]

The Power of Positive Parenting - Definition of Discipline

I am going to be referring back to principles contained in this post in upcoming posts so it is important that if you are going to follow this series on parenting that you understand the concepts contained here.
When we think of discipline we often think of punishment for doing the wrong thing. That is only [...]

The Power of Positive Parenting

I have alluded several times to a part of my education that has been a tremendous help to my ministry. When I went to Harding I majored in psychology and went on to work on a Ph.D. in clinical and health psychology at the University of Florida (which I withdrew from to do ministry). I [...]